Numerology Course - page 51.
5 & 6 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John is in a cycle of change and highly charged energy. Mary is in a cycle of stability and responsibility. John’s energy is restless and dynamic, Mary’s energy is focused and grounded. John is looking around for opportunity and adventure. Mary is looking at the home and the family. Mary’s attention is focused near by, on the people and things that matter most. John’s attention is focused away; on work, career, travel and so forth.
These cycles are as opposite as two cycles can be, yet they are not incompatible. Within a relationship, these influences complement and balance each other. However, if they get too inner-twined, they will turn on each other and anger and blame are the most likely result. It is important, now more than at almost any other time, John and Mary, that you don’t try to influence each other too much. Live and let live is the slogan for this month. You probably have realized by now that, more often than not, you are experiencing very different cycles. This is an important aspect of your relationship not limited to this particular cycle. It will always be that way. You should accept the fact that you tend to be influenced by very different energies most of your lives. Therefore, you may just want to make the concept of live and let live a family slogan - for life.
But, as you probably have also realized by now, although the influence of your personal cycles always tend to place you at opposite ends of the spectrum, it also means that you complement each other very well and make a great team when you put your minds to it. In particular when it comes to showing a single front to the outside world.
5 & 7 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, this is one of the most healing and loving cycles you can experience. The five and the seven are very different, but they get along extremely well.
John is undergoing a time of changes and dynamic energy. Mary, you are a bit more withdrawn than usual because your focus is on your inner life: who you are and where you are going. Although the cycles tend to influence you very differently - outward for John, inward for Mary - these energies thrive on each other. Mary, your desire, consciously or subconsciously, to understand better who you are and where you want to go, as well as the fact that you are more quiet and subdued, creates somewhat of an aura of mystery around you. This is very attractive to John, in particular during this time when nothing else seems subtle and mysterious. John’s charged energy and inspiring attitude has a powerful and positive effect on Mary, for whom this is like a lifeline to the “real” world. A mistake people in John’s position sometimes make, however, is to view their partner’s quietness to mean that something is wrong. Don’t make that mistake, John. The one thing people in a seven period don’t want is for someone else to try to draw them out of that quiet space. Mary would probably experience that as annoying and intrusive. Just be together. That is all it takes to make this a wonderful time of closeness and deeply felt appreciation.
5 & 8 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
When it rains, it pours, John and Mary. This is a time when neither one of you will find it easy to keep up with your partner. John has a lot going on, juggling more balls than usual. Mary is experiencing strong ambitions and visions of what can be accomplished and how many opportunities there really are. With very different energies currently influencing you, John and Mary, there is not much room to sit down and simply enjoy each other’s company. That’s okay, though, because you will get plenty of that in the next cycle, when you both shift your focus towards family, friends, and each other.
John, your cycle brings a lot of change, but it will take time to sort it all out, and several other cycles will go by before you will be able to see clearly the lasting effect of these changes. Mary, your cycle may, in the end, put your next goal or goals sharply in focus. It could be said that John’s energy is like molecules bouncing all over the place, establishing boundaries and discovering space, while Mary’s is more sharply focused on a particular point.
The most common mistake couples in this combination of cycles make is to try to make each other see the world through each other’s eyes. The only result will be frustration and mutual limiting of potential if you go that route. This is a time when you have to allow each other to do exactly what each of you wants to do, without having to explain too much or to account for your actions.
5 & 9 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, this combination of cycles can be quite challenging. Almost certainly, this is a bit of a trying time for Mary, who feels somewhat at a loss as to where to go next, what the future holds, and so forth. There are few answers for many of the doubts and questions. The current cycle for Mary feels like the end of a long, long day, when one is worn out, energy is low and one is emotionally charged and insecure. Don’t worry too much, Mary, the next cycle will bring in a whole different energy, much more uplifting, inspiring, and powerful.
On John’s side, it will be a period of more energy and less patience than usual. And patience is exactly what Mary needs. Therefore, the most important ingredient necessary to make this period as good as it can be, is for John to muster up as much patience as possible and use it to comfort and support Mary.
And, if things get a bit difficult during this time, John and Mary, keep in mind that you are under the powerful influence of cycles that are not very compatible. And that cycles are, by nature, only temporary.
6 & 6 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, as a couple you have a lot to give during this time, not only to each other, but also to those who share your world. You are more focused on family, friends, and the relationship you have with each other, and you want nothing more than share you love and your commitment.
During this time, you understand and strengthen each other.
However, great discordance may arise when some of these traits are taken too far. For example, your caring and nurturing can become meddlesome, and your generosity and your love, if taken to an extreme, can become intrusive and smothering to each other. It is also possible that one or both of you become more controlling, creating a competitive atmosphere. Another contradiction during these otherwise loving cycles, is that your tolerance threshold is lower than usual. This may cause you to get more easily annoyed and irritated with each other about little things.
Although more focused on your family, friends and relationship, the two of you will, at the same time, find yourself more involved with other matters as well. This is a good time for finances and promotions. Professionally, you may take on more responsibilities and be subject to the career-related stress that often follows. However, material improvements are likely to happen for both of you.
6 & 7 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, you are experiencing very different cycles.
On one hand, the influences of the six and the seven complement each other very well. On the other, they create such different needs you may find that there is little common ground between the two of you. You may find that you disagree on just about everything; how to spend your vacation, what kind of car to buy, which of your friends to invite, and so forth. John is reaching out to people, Mary is avoiding them. John is more extrovert than usual, Mary is seeking peace and quiet.
A positive influence during this time is found in the fact John more tolerant and giving, willing to sacrifice here and there to accommodate Mary. This is an important and much needed factor to make this a harmonious time. Mary is not very patient right now and doesn’t want to be bothered.
John, it is important to remember that if Mary seems a bit cool and distant, this has nothing to do with the relationship. Mary is doing some soul searching and needs to be given some space and distance. Mary, it is crucial not to forget John and not to get lost within yourself to the extent of ignoring the world around you. Pay attention to those you care about, Mary. Your relationship with your friends, your family and with John will last a lot longer than this period of self-examination and spiritual exploration.
6 & 8 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
Although quite different, these cycles are nonetheless very compatible. Both of you, John and Mary, will experience progress in career and other worldly matters. Mary and John, this can turn out to be an excellent time that may well bring a financial windfall.
On a more personal level, you are also more involved with each other, albeit in very different ways. For John, it is simply a matter of the heart. John feels strongly committed and wants nothing more than to make Mary happy. For Mary, there is some awakening of leadership spirit and ambition, even within the relationship. And here is where we may encounter a possible pitfall. Mary, your tact and diplomacy are not particularly enhanced right now. You are taking more control of your life, but you have to be careful not to try and take control of the lives of those you care about, including, of course, John’s life. It is easy to see how that can become a source of friction: John needs your love, not your leadership. Focus your ambition on other things and allow your heart, not your mind, to control your relationship.
6 & 9 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
Strange as it seems, this is considered a very compatible combination of cycles precisely because this is a difficult and emotional time for Mary.
John is more devoted and committed to the relationship during this period and that is exactly what Mary needs; tender loving care and strong commitment.
Mary may well feel that the world is crumbling, or that expectations have not been met. Mood swings and doubts can play havoc with a person’s life during a nine period. John, on the other hand, is more stable and will be happy to be in a position to offer comfort and strength. Mary, you may find yourself relying heavily on John, in particular on an emotional and spiritual level.
Much will depend on John’s ability to offer support and comfort, but an important and positive ingredient that Mary brings in are moments of clarity and enhanced perspective, born from an urgency to understand what is going on and where to go next. When it comes to examining the future, the goals and expectations you share, and what is needed to reach these goals, Mary can be a source of inspiration. After all, it is when we feel as if the rug is being pulled from under our feet that we realize what we need to do to survive. Like adrenaline for the soul, the moments of fear and anxiety Mary may experience, are also the moments we can see clearly what we need to do and how we need to do it.
7 & 7 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, this is a cycle during which you have a lot of control over the way you experience your relationship. In this day and age, the seven cycle is perhaps the most difficult to live up to. Not because it is demanding, but because it asks you to back off from the daily grind and struggle. This is a time you should be devoted to your self; to your deeper spiritual and intellectual needs.
This is something society does not, as a rule, inspire. Yet, without these periods of self-examination and self-discovery, a person could get lost among all the mundane stuff and never be able to step back and appreciate what this life is all about.
And is your willingness to step away from the rat race, John and Mary, that is the deciding factor in how this cycle will affect you and your relationship. If you have learned how to be together quietly, without demanding each other’s attention, you have a big advantage, because that is precisely what this cycle asks from you. You are both experiencing a time when you need to be alone more than usual. You may find that you have little patience with those you perceive as intrusive, and this does not exclude your partner. Hence, John and Mary, it is important that you use your abilities to fulfill this need to be together - and yet to be alone - during the span of this cycle.
7 & 8 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John, during this time you may feel left behind, perhaps forgotten and ignored. Of course, this is not really the case. It is just that Mary is focused on getting things done, reaching goals, and taking advantage of opportunities, while you, John, are drawn to examining your own life, where you are going, and even why you are doing the things you do. John and Mary, the fact that your needs and your ambitions are going in different directions does not make this a compatible combination of cycles. Mary is out there, full of plans and visions, while John is turning inward.
You may find it difficult to communicate, to find common ground, and to get excited about each other’s interests.
This is a time, Mary, when you should not try too hard to get John involved with something that interests you. And vice versa. This is a time to keep things simple, and the secret to go through it successfully is to love each other, but don’t try to share everything you are doing.
7 & 9 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, you may feel somewhat distant from each other during this period. You are both experiencing a lot of emotions that are not easily understood or explained. Although you share the need to be more inward focused than usual, the reasons are quite different. John, in what is at least in part a subconscious effort, is seeking understanding and clarity. John is on a path of increased self-awareness and spiritual growth. Mary is also influenced by energies that focus inward, but on a more practical and emotional level. Some hovering insecurity may cause Mary to feel less confident than usual. There are doubts and questions in Mary’s life, but they are different in nature from John’s. Mary’s turmoil is largely emotional.
There is a big difference in the way this internal search for understanding is experienced. John, strange as it may sound, actually feels strong and capable. Mary, on the other hand, feels vulnerable. Mary needs you right now, John. Mary doesn’t per se expect any answers from you, but you can be a much-needed source of strength. For both of you, this is a learning cycle. And you will certainly come out spiritually and emotionally stronger.
8 & 8 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
This, Mary and John, can be the best or the worst of times. Usually, it is a bit of both. With some help and effort, you can tip the balance towards the best of times, but you should be prepared to experience some of the worst as well.
On the positive side, this is a time of ambition and reward for both of you. You will see progress, and you will see rewards for past efforts. You are both in a cycle of strength and focus. In addition, you enhance those same qualities in each other.
On the negative side, you also enhance the less desirable qualities in each other during this time. You are both a bit more selfish and perhaps even ruthless in the pursuit of whatever it is that you want. You are less giving and more taking, less devoted to each other and more to your self.
As long as you both aim your ambitions to the world around you, everything is fine, but if you happen to find your partner in the cross hairs of your ambition, you will need to wake up to what is really important to you before you do permanent damage to the relationship. Remember why you are together and what is really important to you. John and Mary, don’t compete and don’t let your ambitions get the best of your relationship.
8 & 9 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, as is often the case within your relationship, your cycles are influencing you in very different - and not altogether compatible - ways. For John, this is a time to get out there and shake some trees, make things happen and reap the rewards. So, the advice for John during this cycle is: focus on your career, be aggressive in the pursuit of your success.
For Mary, this is a time when everything feels shaky and insecure. Mary needs John right now. Mary needs the human contact, the commitment and the security John has to offer more than during most cycles. With John’s focus on the world outside the relationship, and Mary needing John’s attention more than usual, it takes conscious effort from both of you to prevent disappointments and perhaps even resentment from overshadowing your relationship during this time.
John, pay attention to Mary. You too, will experience a time when nothing will seem secure and solid. In fact, your next cycle will bring some of that and you will need Mary’s hand then.
Due to the fact that your cycles always tend to be almost one hundred and eighty degrees opposite, John and Mary, you have probably learned to adjust to each other’s needs. This ability to surrender some of your own needs to those of your partner is the most important key to making your relationship a long and happy union.
9 & 9 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, this is going to be a challenging time.
Throughout your relationship, you experience cycles that are either very good, or very bad. Almost always, you relate to each other better than most couples because you understand the way your partner feels and you are able to love more easily and forgive more easily because of this.
The challenging aspect of this particular cycle lies in the fact that this time, you are both going through a period when you need your partner more than usual, and neither one of you is able to give as much as you would like. You both need stability, and stability is something neither one of you has in large supply at this time. Since you both feel a little bit at the end of your rope, your energy level may be a little low, you just don’t have a lot of inspiration, and you can’t offer your partner something you don’t have. In a nutshell, that tells the story.
Fortunately, this cycle is not made of shadows alone, it also has a bright side. This cycle allows us to see more clearly what we want from this life, where we want to go, and whom we want to share our life with. That is why we all have to go through the nine-cycle in order to continue on. So, think of it as a cross-country trip during which you have to stop every once in a while to study your maps and plan the next part of the trip. But once you have studied your map and thought about the next part of the trip, you are back on track. Now with enhanced clarity and focus, and confident that you will get wherever you want to go.
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